hok-up culture?

[ritaxis]

First, let me say that I don't have a thing against hooking up, if the people involved have the slightest idea about safety, civility, health, and friendliness in sex. In the pre-AIDS, pre-antibiotic-resistant-STDs era, my own generation thought there was something truly transcendent to be acquired through joyful and boundless sex. I don't think we were any wronger than Newtonian physics is. Think about it.

However, there's this thing going the rounds -- Laura Stepp, Tom Wolfe, I don't know how many other culture vultures, are out there saying that kids these days are having too much soulless, stringless sex, unlike any generation before them.

Stupid.

Any time some kid goes out and has sex which is not fun, does not promote nice relationships (whether shallow or deep, okay?), is not safe, etc.,etc.: any time some kid does something that makes them feel bad, that's not good, sure.

But honestly, my house and my world sees a fairly steady stream of young folks, and I just don't see that kind of behavior. I do see a small number of recreational-sex devotees, and I do see some people engaging in Mistake Sex, but I don't see any Recent Phenomenon of More Destructive Sex than Ever.

Probably because there isn't one.

Comments

"More Destructive Sex than Ever"

[randwolf.livejournal.com]

It would be pretty hard for the current generation to outdo past generations in this. At least we have contraceptives, condoms, and modern medicine.

Re: "More Destructive Sex than Ever"

[randwolf.livejournal.com]

Hunh. Perhaps real chastity consists of Not Being Destructive. That turns out to be surprisingly hard to do.

Re: "More Destructive Sex than Ever"

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

There are people who talk about not chastity, but another of those words I can't think of at the moment, to mean moderation and self-control. Which is a broad thing. A person can be quite sexually active, and sexually active beyond or without the definition of a primary love relationship, and be quite moderate and self-disciplined.

This is not to prescribe this kind of sex life, only to describe it.