Edward Kent Trollman, 5/20/1950 -- 8/19/2008

[ritaxis]

The nice fellow died this morning. It was almost completely unexpected. He had been ill for a while, enough to scare me. But I couldn't get him to the doctor until a week ago. Today was his last dose of antibiotic, he wasn't getting better, and Frank and I were trying to get him to the doctor and he just stopped breathing while I was trying to put pants on him and Frank did CPR until the paramedics came and he just stopped.

That's not why I've been quiet for a while. I could actually blame Frank being home for that, but honestly, it was more burnout and the Sims.

The nice fellow and I were planning a few days off for me, and we were going to go to the White Mountains to commune with the bristlecone pines. Just before he died we were revising our plans to go to Point Reyes/Drake's Bay because he didn't think he could handle high altitudes while he was recovering from bronchitis.

On Sunday we walked three miles -- just to the end of the wharf and back, to see the Polynesian festival -- he had to stop every so often and sit for a bit, and he couldn't stick around for the music, but he was able to enjoy himself and I thought he was getting better. Yesterday he was a lot worse, and I was planning to go in to work late so I could watch out for him and get him to the doctor today.

I'm not cold-hearted. I did some crying earlier, and I will do it again, but right now I'm going to lose myself online for a bit.

I'm pissed that I didn't have enough warning to sing "our songs" to him.

Maybe play Sims, maybe catch up on his favorite websites.

Comments

[angevin2.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[ckd]

My deepest condolences, Lucy. I wish you whatever comfort you can find.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[brooksmoses]

Wow. *hugs* Even with the being ill, that sounds deeply deeply unexpected, yes. He was also almost exactly a year younger than my father was....

If you were localer, I'd cook a casserole or something and bring it over so you wouldn't need to worry about where to get dinner from. I could bring one (or other food) over Saturday, if you would like.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you -- no food, Frank likes cooking and people keep bringing it anyway. Thanks for telling people.

[ellarien]

I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[boxofdelights]

I'm so sorry.

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thank you

[zanzjan.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry )-:

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[kate-schaefer.livejournal.com]

Lucy, I'm shocked and appalled, and so very sorry for your loss. I'm glad Frank is there with you.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[tavella.livejournal.com]

I am very, very sorry to hear this.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[pantryslut.livejournal.com]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[randwolf.livejournal.com]

Sympathies.

[hrj.livejournal.com]

I'm so very sorry -- it sounds horribly sudden, despite his illness. Please let me know if there's anything I can do. (Given online communities, I practically count as living in the neighborhood!) If the answer is "ask that again in a few weeks when things have sorted themselves out a bit more" I'll make a note to do so.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

Yes, the answer is in fact ask me in a few weeks. I've got the world's best friends and family, and the only thing I'm doing right now is grasping the facts and preparing for the memorial, which will be kind of a guerilla affair with dogs.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry :(

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[kiya]

!

Oh my.

May you be comforted.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank yoju.

[pameladean]

Oh, Lucy, how awful. I am so sorry.

P.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[del-c.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[julesjones]

I'm sorry. I wish I could be there for you.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[(Anonymous)]

i look at the dumbrella boards from time to time, and even though i've never met your husband or interacted much with him on the boards, he was part of our little family there and he will be missed. i am so sorry for your loss, and i hope you and your family find the strength to get through this.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[khiemtran.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear it.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

Very sorry to hear of this, Lucy

[(Anonymous)]

I'm just sorry to hear of this. Nothing to add, don't know what I could possibly say.
- Clifton from Making Light

Re: Very sorry to hear of this, Lucy

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[karinfromnosund.livejournal.com]

My condolences.

I'll be thinking of you. Tale care of yourself.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[aquaeri.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry to hear this.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[davidgoldfarb.livejournal.com]

I'm terribly sorry that you have suffered this loss.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[zeborah]

I'm so very sorry.

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thank you.

[janetmk.livejournal.com]

Oh Lucy! So terrible and unexpected. My condolences to you and yours.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

thank you.

[sciamanna.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Condolences, and hugs, to all. It is good at least that both your children are there.

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

tyhank you.